Where do some people get their nerve?

I am adopted. Most everyone who has ever been in my presence longer than 30 minutes knows this. It is something I am very proud of. I am proud of Sue Ellen for have the courage at 19 to make such a tough decision. I am proud of my parents for making me think/feel it was the norm to come from an office not a hospital and to be adopted ROCKED! AS you will note I said my parents....No they are not biologically my parents, but for those who are parents keep reading...Parents are not those who had intercourse and birthed you. They are the ones who cried, laughed and sometimes tormented you. They sat by your crib/bed and prayed they would do right by you. They clapped for all your firsts and punished for the firsts that were not correct (like flipping someone off and saying "FU too", forgetting your parents are right behind you..soap on your toothbrush is not nice at all. I never claimed to be a genius). My parents are who raised me and helped me to become who I am. This is the same thing I am doing for my daughter and everyone does for their kids. Now, don't get me wrong. I love my birth mom too. I am comfortable with her. It is like that person you meet and instantly have a connection with. See she didn't have to raise me so our relationship can be different. My rant is coming from something someone said to me last week. It was at my new job. They overheard another conversation and then began to ask me about my adoption, parents and biomom. The they said well if I was your mom I would be so offended that after everything I did for you, you went and found some else. OK HOLD UP A MINUTE! WTF? First, I have known my whole life I was adopted. It is a good thing. Second, my parents have known from early on I was curious. I have been honest, albeit difficult at times to discuss. It is a very raw, emotional, no set way to handle process. AND IT IS A PROCESS! I am just furious that someone who knows nothing about me, my family, or my history has enough balls to say such a thing. It actually has made me angry at work. Hopefully after posting this I will feel better. If for some reason they read it, they will know who they are. Maybe they will think next time before they make such assumptions. I know this has never been easy on any one involved in this. You know you think about the adoptive parents, the kid, and the bio mom/dad. Guess what? I have siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins. Adoptive and Biologic this has all effected. An aunt who did not understand why I was given up, Grandparents who were doing what was best for their child, other grandparents who were ecstatic their kids were going to be parents. A husband who watched me go through this and just held my hand while scared at the same time my world would crush around me. Adoption is a multifaceted thing and very enter twined. No one can understand unless you have a role in the immediate parts. There are so many reasons that adoption is done in the first place. Not many people have to wonder how they were conceived but I did. I had no idea if it was rape, incest, or if they loved each other and I was just an oops! ( it was love by the way) There is no doubt in every inch that is my soul....I was to be Courtney Hunt from the day I was conceived. For some reason this is what each of us had to go through to become who we are, but it has never no will it ever be a negative, spiteful type of thing. I have heard it said that you can't imagine how you will love a second child like you love your first yet when they get there yo can't imagine life without them....The truth is the same with this. Before my Biofam came into my life I had no idea I could love that family as I love my family but I do. It is different but it is deep and loving and something just as special and wonderful. I have more people who love me, my husband and daughter and who we love. How can that ever be seen as anything but BEAUTIFUL? If you ever have time to hear the WHOLE story it is fascinating. Things that took place for me to be who I am, there was Divine Intervention. My story is one off beauty, love and pain. It is also amazing. I am so lucky, blessed, and fortunate. (yes all 3) I just had a sigh of relief. This is something I needed to do. I have plans for my future and dealing with adoption. I hope my dreams will come true to help others out there find their peace and to help some not be so oblivious.